My dad taught me how to play catch.He also passed on to me a love of reading and good music.I'd say he's been a solid advice giver throughout the years,but one subject he never touched on--or went near--wasdating.So,I spoke to some dads who shared their essential dating advice for all daughters.Here's the best dating advice your dad never gave you:
Aww,remember the days?
1.Men communicate differently.
Fledgling daters and those of us who've been to the circus many times before might be well aware that many men,regardless of age,education,social class,ethnicity and religion,just have a different way of communicating.Women generally like to talk things out,to the bottom of a situation or problem.Men will often take a less communicative approach.Whether their intents are good or bad,they just aren't as comfortable diving in to the wild waters of talking about feelings,so they stay on the shore and build sandcastles to impress us instead.
2.Ignore everything a man says and pay attention only to what he does.
If you've never seenDr.Randy Pausch's "Last Lecture,"it's a heartstring-tugging call to start living your life from a man whose own life was ending.He passed away in 2008,but his teachings and spirit endure.When it came to dating and men,his message to all women was simple: "Just ignore everything they say and only pay attention to what they do."
I can't tell you how many times I've made excuses for the men I've dated."Maybe he was caught in a meeting and couldn't call me back…for 13 hours?" "He yells at me all the time,but that's because I know how to push his buttons." These excuses oftentimes come at the expense of your own sanity,however.The bottom line is that a man will show you if he is worthy of dating you by his actions,and to date someone who continually displays that he's "too [insert excuse adjective here]" to be good to you,is to do yourself a huge disservice.Which leads us to dad wisdom number 3.
Almost all of the dads I interviewed said "Don't settle" in some way.One dad touchingly added: "There is a man out there who loves who you are,and how you look,every minute of the day." Being single can be a gloriously freeing and liberating experience,but sometimes,it really sucks.This is especially true when being assaulted by comments from Nonna like,"Why you no have a boyfriend?I was married with two kids at your age!" (Thanks,Grandma!) Patience is a virtue that's hard to come by,but our dads would ache to see us lowering our standards for the sake of companionship for companionship's sake.