艾莉森Winterroth摄影

当你找人度过你的余生有,你是否希望孩子能不能造就的关系问题。这就是为什么dontwantkidsnope总是确保她的男友知道她肯定不打算成为一个妈妈永远。问题?即使是谁说过的那些,他们分享了她的计划起初都支持后出来,和她结束了浪费她的时间与人谁不与她真正兼容。

“我有四个严重的男朋友(五个号码现在),”她写了。“当我与他们在一起了,他们不想要孩子。当我们分手了,他们做到了。他们要么对我撒谎或关系的过程中,改变了主意。”

目前她已被一个新伙伴约会了两年,而且因为他是比她年轻,她害怕同样的事情会发生,并希望以防止它。这里的其他Redditors给她的建议是:

“我很抱歉,我没有更好的消息,但你不能阻止人们改变他们的想法或骗你。......唯一的好消息我是,你会得到老,这本身意志 weed out the guys who think they'd be able to change your mind." —futurecrazycatlady

“分开谁从谁改变了他们心目中的前男友骗的前男友,他们并不在同一个类别属于什么暗示,如果有的话,你在说谎错过?他们果真这么好的骗子?还是你错过它,因为 you didn't want to see it? The mind-changers: what hints, if any, did you miss or notice too late that they were actually fencesitters all along? ... I would also stop seeing it as a 'waste.' The first two years of any relationship are always just the beginning of anything long-term. ... You're going to have to go through a few breakups until you finally find the right match for you. If it wasn't kids, it could easily have been something else, as perfect as some of these guys might have appeared in the beginning and middle." —threedeemelodie

“如果你日期之前可能有帮助......最让我知道是谁不想要孩子,并且非常肯定它是在30多岁和中期向上的家伙。” —pandasaurusrex

“随着年龄的增长它会变得更加容易,但我会开始,说明你的孩子自由的前期。杂草出来他们抓住的感觉了。” —streetnameporno

“不幸的是,在一定程度上,这是它只是如何去为我们这样的人,直到社会开始松开它的夹子‘所有的女人都注定要成为母亲/每个人都想要孩子’的想法。在此期间,虽然,我 might suggest looking into dating services and communities specifically for child-free people." —pdxemf

“看看他们是否愿意得到剪断。谁是剪断任何人意味着商机。” —twelveperdaay

你如何确保你约会共享你未来的计划摆在人们面前的事情太严重吗?

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