After walking away,she called a cab and went home.And that was that.
But the guilt hasn't gone away.She continues,"I feel so shameful for it.There's nothing bad about our relationship that could lead me to cheating,我们经常做爱,有大量的亲密。Even though my husband works a lot,he still makes time for me,and I can't thank him enough for how hard he works to support me and our daughter.I don't know how I even took a single step in the direction of the stranger's car.I would never cheat on my husband but it terrifies me that I came close to it."
We're going to go out on a pretty stable limb here and say that plenty of women (and men) have likely found themselves in a similar situation,or at least fantasized about it.There's nothing abnormal about craving a little newness in your life (or more specifically,your love life),no matter how great you have it.And bottom line: Shedidn'tcheat.She got it together and decided that the short-term win was definitely* not* worth the long-term cost.
Still,it's a little scary to think we're even capable of hurting a person we love.And this Reddit user is sufficiently freaked out.She asks readers: "Do I tell him?I think that I'm going to have to,because I doubt I can keep this bottled up forever."
Here's what some Reddit users had to say about that:
"You realized the huge mistake you were embarking on and turned tail and ran without any physical contact.Good for you.You stopped yourself and are remorseful,beating yourself up over it and realizing what almost,but didn't happen."—thal13
"The short of it is...you didn't cheat.You had the opportunity and didn't.There's a lot of men and women who would."—Martin 8506
"As pissed as I'd be as the husband,the fact that she felt so remorseful to me even when it didn't really happen actually seems like the response that a healthy and caring person would have so I'm happy about that."—PradOct
"Being monogamous isn't just about resisting temptation;it's also about avoiding temptation."—DeadFoyer
"You should tell him,explain it like you have here.You must accept he will feel hurt,and that you will have some trust to rebuild.This is the healthy way for your relationship."—AlliedForces74
"Take it to the grave.Most of us have been in that situation at some point.I don't really see a need to cause a fire if one technically never happened.Learn from your lesson and just move on with your life."—Yellowshortsvery
"If everyone ALWAYS disclosed each time they almost cheated,there would be no relationships left.I believe anyone is capable of cheating given the right circumstances.You stopped yourself,which is very impressive and now know how to avoid getting yourself into those situations."—MyDayJobSucks
"There were witnesses that saw you both leave the bar together and then he noticed you acting strange when you got home.You should really tell him and get ahead of this,because if he hears any rumors and is forced to try to figure it out himself then it looks really incriminating against you."—squirrel_statue
"I think you need to ponder on why you almost cheated,and bring those concerns to him.You mention some here,like him working more and the stress of taking care of your daughter.Everything just built up and you went a little wild.Maybe if you had more frequent times to yourself (like once a week),your social quota will be met and you wouldn't be so attracted by the attention of others."—moonlightracer